3 things that you need to know about your mind
Your mind responds to the pictures it sees and the words it hears
Your mind sees images, scenes and events. Your mind understands all of the words that you use to communicate with yourself and others. Both pictures and words evoke powerful emotions. The strength of these emotions is a good indicator of how influential and impactful these words and images are for you.
At any given moment you have the power to decide to change the words and images that you feed your mind, whether these are:
- In your environment - the news, social media, books that you read, people you choose to spend time with
- Or in your imagination - the stories and scenarios you play out, how you talk to yourself
Your mind does precisely what it thinks you want it to do
If your brain thinks that you don’t want something, it turns it down. Your survival instinct will force you to avoid anything you associate with pain.
If your brain thinks you want something, it turns up the desire. The more specific you are about what you desire the more precisely this works.
The key part here is what your brain or mind thinks that you want or don't want. With the multitude of things we experience every day of our lives we can easily, accidentally and often miscommunicate with our minds. For example:
- Following a bad breakup, you decide "I'm done with women!"
- Seeing a wealthy individual mistreat a waiter, you conclude that "money turns people rotten"
Your mind gravitates towards what it is familiar with
Your mind's "default mode" is to think the thoughts and help you to do the things that you are most familiar with. Familiarity is created by repetition. In fact, your brain will physically hardwire the thoughts that are most often thought so that they are easier to access.
Familiar things can actually become unfamiliar through practice. When you stop doing something you do often, your brain will start to prune the relevant connections in your brain. Therefore, if you find something to replace the familiar things with, then these connections weaken and will fade away.
Which things can you repeat to generate this familiarity?
- Words - what you say about anything relating to you, other people and your environment
- Thinking/images - the pictures and stories that you see and imagine, as well as the feelings that these evoke
- Actions - the things we do most often become easier to do without thinking, e.g. riding a bike, driving a car, taking a shower
So, how does this help me?
Firstly, with diligence, you could use these three principles to understand what is driving the way that you currently behave.
Secondly, you could then identify a series of changes in how you communicate with your mind which would bring about a desired change in your behaviour and the way you feel.
This isn't always easy to do, especially on your own, because most of us have been thinking and behaving in the same way for a very long time. Even becoming aware of the patterns can be a challenge. Personally, I find that independent introspection works well for smaller issues and adjustments rather than large aspects of one's life.
If there is a significant aspect of your thinking, behaviour and life at large that you want to shift, then it's useful to explore other methods. In particular, s session of Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) might be helpful. In one session alone, you can get to the core of why you think in a certain way as well as feed your mind the images and words it needs to shift.
Does RTT sound interesting to you?
The best way forward is to discuss your needs on a call. We will talk through what you want to accomplish, the options for moving forward and any questions you have.
If you want to peruse some information before our call. Or you would prefer to understand more before speaking with me. You should check out the Guide to RTT.
Lastly, and most importantly, I'd like to thank you. The opportunity to work with you is inspiring for me. In fact, it's my mission :)